Teens motivating teens Life update: Never give up

Last night I had a very intense basketball game. It was against our biggest rivals. We had beaten them two years in a row and have knocked them out of the playoffs before. Aside from the fact that we had beat them 3 times in a row. We were also playing against our coaches old club.

As you guys can imagine. There was a lot of bad blood between our teams.

However with a very large crowd behind their backs and a string of nervous plays. Our team faltered in the first three quarters. We were behind by 20 points.

I am a believer of bouncing back. I am a believer in comebacks.

Some of my teammates weren’t very optimistic though. I know many were thinking of giving up.

In life we must never give up. We have to always strive to achieve our goals. As teens we are biologically designed to test our limits. Explore, discover and learn. If you have a dream go as hard as you can. You will make mistakes. You will want to give up.

We ended up exploding into the fourth quarter with a 12-0 run. It was a miraculous comeback but with two minutes left they hit some tough shots and won the game.

The point of this story is not the results of the game. We never gave up and I’m proud of that.

Never give up teens. The temptation to quit will be greatest just before you are about to succeed.

Thanks for reading! Happy wednesday

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Teen advice column : S’s depression

Hello, Jordan. I have depression, and I’m suffering a lot because of it. It really hurts. I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve tried to do what my friends and psychiatrist tell me, but the happiness only lasts for a short while. While I appreciate my friends being there for me, because they don’t really know what depression is or how it feels like, I only get answers I already know when I turn to them for help when I feel suicidal. It’s been going on for more than a year. And right now, at the moment, I’m struggling to live with the pain inside. I’m clinging onto the fact that if I go now, I won’t be able to do what I love anymore. It’s painful. It really is. And with each passing day, the pain only increases and my love for art (what I’m holding onto) slowly diminishes. What should I do? These negative thoughts and feelings are getting too overwhelming for me to bear. I know I’ve said this many times, but it really hurts. Please help me. It hurts.

Hey S,

Thank you so much for opening up and asking for help. To be honest I cannot say that I am an expert in depression or that I know how you feel.

Right now you’re experiencing a large amount of compassion, it’s when you are inside of a hole and everybody is yelling from outside of it trying to coach you to get out. You are very lucky to have friends that support you very much and you have already gotten professional help. I think what you really need right now is empathy.

Empathy is when someone climbs down the hole to join you and go though the hard times together. I’m here to join you and get through it with you.

Although I do not know your situation very well I know how depression can affect an individual.  I also know that you probably have tried eating, sleeping or even tricking yourself through your own depression.

Here are some thing that I definitely think you should try:

– Whenever you feel overwhelmingly sad, do what you love. Use your art to express everything you’re feeling. Don’t be afraid to cry, don’t be afraid to tell someone that you’re feeling very sad.

– Try changing your lifestyle. As I have mentioned before you have probably tried eating, sleeping or even tricking yourself through you depression. Instead, try sleeping earlier, exercising everyday, eating healthier. There’s no better way to improve your mood then to become healthier in general.

– Challenge your negative thoughts. You’re fighting a constant mental battle against your depression. Feel like nobody likes you? Try to find real proof for that. There probably isn’t. Always challenge your own thought and see the bright side in everything.

– Make a list of all the people that love you and that care about you. There’s probably so many more then you have ever realized. You might not know your reason to be right now, but they can be your reason to keep fighting this battle. Review the list often, try and add more people everyday.

– Try to change your setting. When I was going through a tough time in my life. I’d spend all my time on the computer. It helped me so much to go on walks at the park or do homework outside.

– Take breaks when you need them. Take care of your body, don’t overwork yourself but make sure to achieve small goals before you take your break. Tell yourself that after you go for a quick jog in the afternoon then you can take a short nap.

I’ve given you these suggestions. It’s up to you now to keep fighting your battle. Remember what you’re feeling right now. If follow all these small lifestyle tips then this will be the lowest of your low. This is the worst you will ever feel. Trust me, it will only get better from here. I’m not saying there won’t be tough times, you will face more obstacles in your life. It will only get better from here though.

Keep fighting your fight S, I’m here for you if you ever need any help. Please stay in contact with me.

If anybody else has any problems or needs advice please don’t hesitate to go to the second page up top “Questions, Feedback, Comments” and I will happily answer your questions. You can also email me at jordanhelpsteens@gmail.com

Hope you had a great weekend and stay strong for the coming week.Unknown

Teen advice column: anonymous’ video game addiction

Hey Jordan,

My problem is that I’m addicted to video games. I go home from school everyday and I do homework and then play my computer game. It’s ruining my school and socials life.

Hey anonymous,

Many of my friends have the same problem as you. To be honest, I was at one point extremely drawn by the presence of my computer. I would get back from school as fast as possible, get some food, throw my bag in the corner and immerse in the world of video games.

The good news is that you have already completed the first step. Admitting you have an addiction is the first step of rehabilitation.

The next step is a tiny bit harder. The way I got out of the addiction was to completely change my setting. When you’re in the computer room you already have a behavioral habit to sit down and start up the computer.

Instead of going home right away try and go somewhere else to study first. You need to change settings to get rid of the habit of jumping onto your computer. If it’s ruining your grades here’s a few places you can go instead:

– Your school or local library

– Outside at a park

– In your own backyard

– A different room

Another thing you could do is to put password or time lock onto the program. Try to slam the keyboard a couple of times to make it impossible to guess. Use your game as a reward for a hard days work. You will feel much more rewarded and happy to play.

Now anonymous, I have given you all the tools you need to succeed. It’s your turn now to put it into action. The first few days or even weeks will be very hard. It’s time to put your mental strength to the test here.

Thanks for reading!
Have a great rest of weekend

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Teen life update: Confidence is key

Hey guys,

Recently my basketball has been on a large losing streak. We’re 1W-7L. However, our team morale has not suffered. Our team understands that it is important to stay confident especially through tough times.

Believing in yourself is the starting point to any success. 

Nothing in life comes easy. When times get tough you need the confidence to keep working hard to achieve your dreams, without confidence you will give up. My team does not believe in giving up. It doesn’t matter if our fans aren’t cheering for us anymore, the teachers don’t believe in our capabilities as a team or even when our coach questions how much we can achieve.

At this point, my team is physically and mentally drained. We will never play like it though because the hope and faith that comes with confidence.wpid-kd2fjj7.jpg

Have a great weekend !

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Stay confident teens 🙂

Life update: stepping into the unknown

This morning I was extremely tired. Having slept four hours last night and having morning basketball practice.

I woke up to my stupid buzzing alarm clock, 5:00am flashed angrily. We’ve all had those moments, we want to take a break. Have a day off..

I looked out my window. Nothing but fog. Couldn’t see anything. Then I thought of this quote:

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I knew that if I didn’t take a step. If I didn’t push myself this morning: I’d lose a whole day worth of exploring and learning. I wouldn’t know what experiences I would miss, the memories I’d create.

Finally, I trudgingly walked out the door. Not tired anymore, but excited for the challenge of making something out of today.

Make something out of today.

When you don’t feel like waking up tomorrow, just think about all the memories you’d miss. The opportunities you’d never be able to take.  Make something something out of your day no matter how shitty or tired you feel.

Thanks for reading,
Jordan.

Teen advice column #1: Andrew’s weight problems

Hi Jordan. I enjoy your blog a lot. My question for you is how to gain confidence because I’m pretty overweight at the moment. Many of my classmates make fun of me and it is very hard for me to make friends. I want to do something about my weight problem I really want to but I am too scared people will make fun of me. Please help me out Jordan. (I’m 15 btw)

Sincerely, Andrew.

Hey Andrew!

Thanks for being the first person to ask for advice! I’ll start off by telling you that I was the big fatty in elementary school. Weighing a massive 100+ pounds in grade three. Let me also tell you that I was very accustomed to the name calling, constant reminding of my weight and the feeling of discouragement.

Here’s a quote for you Andrew:

Every morning you have two choices: Continue to sleep with your dreams or wake up and chase them.

If you’re really serious about losing weight and getting in shape you will have to wake up and chase them. There will be many people discouraging you and even trying to trip you up or back stab you on your way. They are scared that you will eventually prove them wrong.

Here are my friendly suggestions to you: Start by going running everyday in the morning. I suggest running in the morning because not that many people will see you. Also running in the morning is for you to start getting used to the grind and grit it takes for you to lose weight. Trust me here, it will be hard. I’m telling you right now there will be many days where you won’t want to go running.

Just remember this though:

Going out and running for five solid minutes is better then not running at all. Force yourself to go outside for five quick minutes, do more if you please. You will want to do more after you get into the swing of it.

Do this until you have become accustomed to running in the morning. By this time, you will definitely have seen improvement in all areas of your life.

Step two would be to hit your local gym. I know it’s a very scary thing. I remember very clearly being a newbie in the gym XD. Preferably, you want to go to a gym where nobody you know will see you. Probably early in the morning as well. Look up a weight loss plan and stick to it, maybe even hire a trainer. You will feel marvelous after your first few sessions.

The important part through all this is to drown out all of the negative comments you receive. Never let any negative feedback get to you. All you need to know is that you are doing something about it. You WILL see improvement.

Confidence will come during this process. When you see improvement, your confidence will soar. Don’t be bothered by anything people say anymore. Use all that negative energy to fuel your desire to get better.

Now Andrew, I’ve given you all these suggestions. It’s time for YOU to wake up every morning and CHASE THOSE DREAMS! You’re only 15! How beautiful is that? You have the whole rest of your life to prove all your haters wrong.

Thanks for the question Andrew and Go for it brother!byyVU32

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